It’s now a family tradition.
A couple years ago, in an attempt to fill the void left by the loss of your dad, I wrote Lessons on Manhood I Learned From Your Father for your brother and you. The following year, your brother turned 21 and a I penned a letter detailing what he had taught me. Now that you have reached this milestone, I’m proud to to detail the exemplary example you present:
Make your words count: A few deliberate comments are more compelling than an extended tirade.
Keep watch: Discreet observation can be the best educator.
Provide a safe harbor: Be known for the one to turn to when times are stormy.
Fancy f-words: Faith, family, and friends form a firm foundation.
Be brave: A heart of gold inspires nerves of steel.
Stay in the loop: Being out of touch induces ignorant decisions.
Tinker: Working with your hands enriches your mind.
Don’t seek applause: Pride in a job well done is all the cheerleading you’ll need.
Be a wolf in sheep’s clothing: Demonstrate your tenacity with quiet confidence.
Form a posse: A few cherished friends are more valuable than a gaggle of acquaintances.
Develop x-ray vision: Not everything (or everyone) should be taken at face value.
Be loyal to a fault: May it never be said you turned your back on those you love.
Take the bull by the horns: If something isn’t working, make it your job to fix it.
Build bridges: Seek common ground, not segregation.
Don’t wear your heart on your sleeve: Your scars are reminders, not honor badges.
Cross the line: Doing something unexpected is always intriguing.
Be a ladies’ man: Having only male friends restricts your perspective.
Hone your competitive drive: Choosing your battles wisely results in more victories.
Throw away the key: Confidences are not to be broken. EVER.
Chime in: Being a part of a team enhances your identity.
Go the distance: Perseverance forges character.
Cast off your armor: A little vulnerability soothes a wounded heart.
Laugh until joy abounds.
Love till your soul overflows.
Live to make your spirit dance.
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